A Victorious Day

So most of you know that Chris and I have been going through a custody battle with his ex.
Chris has been the primary custodial parent since November of 2006. Well December of 2007 Chris's ex came into the picture and decided she wanted to be a mom and fight for custody. So since then we have been going through battle after battle after battle, in court and out of court. The trials were postponed at least 7 times and we went through 5 judges. None of which she has ever won. In her vindictiveness she ruined Chris's career, subjected her children to the most unimaginable things you would never think a mother would do to her own kids, all in the name of "Hurting Chris and I" well guess what it not only hurts us it hurts the kids.
Well on Thursday Sept 02, 2010 it finally all came to an end.
Let me back up just a bit.
When Chris went to meet with our Attorney on Wednesday He ,Trevor, told us he ran into Chris's ex,Angelia, attorney and she said. "I know if I just had a few more days I could convince my client to settle outside of court."
Well Chris and Trevor sat down and wrote up a proposal. It was presented to the opposing party. We waited all night didn't hear a decision went to court the next day and Angelia said no to the settlement. Her attorney in her own words said "she is the most unreasonable B@#*!" wow from her own attorney.
Well the judge who is more or less already retired did not want to be there you could tell, says he is going to run the show he is going to ask the questions, there will be no cross examinations, and no witnesses except the Dr. who did the home evaluation and the two sets of parents. Much different then what we wanted or imagined.
The Dr. went first and had no logical explanation or evidence to back up his recommendation of splitting the time 50/50. All he could say was in his readings it has worked but he has never seen it actually work. Time and money wasted.
Then it is Angelia's turn. When the judge asks her what would be her ideal situation, her reply is "I just want more time with the children" Ugh really after all this time, money and energy you change your mind from wanting custody to more time. Could you have decided that 3 years ago and saved alot of time, money, stress, heartache, career etc.
Wow!!!!! Is about all I could say to that.
So the judge gave us primary custodial parents as it already was and she gets two additional night on her weedends and two additional weeks in the summer.
K let me just add in this is what we proposed in Decemeber of 07, and Septemeber of 2010.
The only additional she got that we did not propose was to split the kids breaks. Like spring break and Christmas break.
So all of that for that really, really, really unbelievable.
Well when we returned home from court and told the children they were so happy. They were jumping around and so happy they stay with us.
When we told them they did have additional days with their mom they cried and said no we don't want to. "Do we have to, please don't make us" are some of the things we heard. Sydney even said "can you go back to court so I don't have to see my mom at all." We told her not until she is 12. It is very sad that we have to let them go when they don't want to, and that they do not have a say in the matter.
For now lots of Joy that the children can stay in our home with two parents that love them, are selfless, and want to be with them and take care of them. They know it and can feel it.
I have to thank everyone for all your emotional, spiritual, mental, financial support. We could not have done it without you. Thank you and we love you.